THE THREE WORDS I'D SAY TO MY 18 YEAR OLD SELF

THE THREE WORDS I'D SAY TO MY 18 YEAR OLD SELF'

February 5, 2024

I saw a meme today that posed the question, what would you say to your 18 year old self using only three words. I always love these type of hypotheticals.

I believe I made mostly great life choices thus far but like everyone you think about how you could’ve did somethings differently. I love how things panned out but if I really had the choice to affect something I would put me on my current path sooner.

So what’s the three words I would say to myself? I would say “Become a Lawyer”. If you know anything about my back story, you know I didn’t give a clown’s nose about becoming a lawyer. It was more logical for someone like my brother or my mother to become one. My brother because, my Grandma would always tell him, “Jay you like to argue so much you need to become a lawyer” (wait until she find we spend 90% of our time avoiding arguing lol).

I would say my mother because she worked years as a paralegal so if she ever decided to go that route it would make sense. But me? No it made zero sense. Nothing about my life said I would be a lawyer, I was a nerdy kid that loved the creative arts (and obviously still do). My grades wasn’t top of the top.

Honestly I was the average student. My art skills weren’t praised, my grades weren’t praised, the only thing that stood out for me was my personal style and my sense of humor. I was “average” on paper but never did I look at myself as “average” I knew I was extraordinary from the beginning lol.

I would choose those three words because my 18 year old self would’ve been smart enough to know that don’t mean stop the arts but it would’ve gave me a north star much sooner. I made the decision to go to law school in 2015, when I was in a corner financially and was lost career wise. 2015, I was one year removed from undergrad, with no job in my field in sight. I was thinking I cannot be a struggling artist I have to make something happen and then reinvest my earnings into my arts.

So I thought I know I’ll become a lawyer, it then took me two years just to get into law school! Graduating in 2020, it took me until 2023 to become licensed! So that’s 8 years spent to gain the illustrious title of “attorney”.

If I was able to tell my 18 year old self “become a lawyer” my 18 year old self would’ve streamlined his life to make himself get into school any means necessary. Those three words would change so much, here’s how I imagined it would’ve played out. I still would’ve attended UAPB, but with those three words from Future me in my head, my major would’ve reflected law instead of marketing. I would’ve focused on gaining internships and working in a firm during school, which would’ve saved me from the agony of being a broke college student lol.

Knowing my infatuation with New York, I would’ve applied to every New York school possible. Also, I would’ve attended school immediately after undergrad, no breaks. I would’ve probably treated law school the same way I did in this timeline but having more knowledge about school in the alternate timeline, I would’ve had a bar prep program from the beginning lol. ( I never used one to get licensed but definitely would’ve did it in this scenario).

After passing the bar, would’ve been in New York licensed earlier, solving financial woes way quicker and enjoying success at an earlier age. With all that said I’m glad it did not happen that way. God made sure things happened exactly as they should. The endless L’s I took gave me much character growth and it makes me a better person everyday. These questions are fun because it make you think of endless possibilities but that is also the problem. Don’t get caught up in the “what ifs” and “what could’ve beens”, we’re in the now and God blessed us with the gift to be present. Make today count and avoid future regret at all costs, I know I will! #StayFocused

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THE PATH TO LAWYER IS DIFFERENT AND I’M LOVING IT.

THE PATH TO LAWYER IS DIFFERENT AND I’M LOVING IT.

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Recently I just saw a post that Kim Kardashian passed the baby bar exam in California. She explained how her process is different than the traditional route which would normally include 3 years of law school after first obtaining a bachelor’s degree. 

Since Kim is a megastar with no college experience becoming a lawyer did not align with her current status.

Thankfully she wishes to practice in a state that allows an alternative route, which she explains how she has to take the “baby bar exam”, topics that typically involve first year law school subjects, then she has to take full blown California Bar Exam.

Which for those who don’t know the exam is known for its extreme difficulty. I mean make you want to pull your hair out type of hard!

Which makes Kim’s journey even more inspiring. We need people like Kim to become a lawyer. We need people like ME to become a lawyer. Why? Because me and Kim aren’t your typical law students.

Kim father may have been the famous Robert Kardashian but initially that did not predetermine her to be a lawyer.

Kim started out running with Paris Hilton, having the infamous tape, posing for KING magazine to becoming a billionaire icon. 

When the average person think of lawyer you may think of a bland person with no swagger, they just go to court all day and defend criminals. Everyone assumes you’re a criminal lawyer when they find out you have a career in law.

You think “they” want this guy to become a lawyer? Hell no! lmao!

But I’m going to show the world I'‘ll be a top lawyer like no other, changing my community ,and inspiring billions!!!

Anyways, they don’t think of a person like me becoming a lawyer. They don’t think of a black man from E.7Mile Detroit who also draw, rap, write books,blogs/vlogs, basically everything artistic under the sun to do something as cut and dry as law. 

But the law is complex and has many sides to its profession the same way a human being is typically not one dimensional.

Kim isn’t going to Harvard, becoming law review president, and landing summer associate positions.

No she is forging her own path through an organic passion for freeing the wrongly incarcerated. 

Photo courtesy of Entertainment Online.

Over the past few years she has lobbied for the freedom of several people, including Alice Marie Johnson who was granted clemency by President Trump. When Kim passes the California Bar Exam and become a licensed attorney I know it will inspire possibly millions of young ladies to become lawyers. Yes simply for the fact that Kim did it. Some people went to law school just because they saw legally blonde, influence is really that simple. See it Believe it.

When Kim becomes a licensed attorney she once again proves that the criticism and insults she had thrown her way do not define her in any shape or form. In fact, they refine her probably giving her more fuel and ammunition to prove to herself, the world, and even her father that the path she chose may not have been the one for everybody but it was definitely the right one for her!

Good Luck Kim.

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