It’s unfortunate when people experience unfortunate events. When one is wronged it is natural to want to correct that wrong. But what happens when the victim becomes the victimizer? How far is too far?
innocent girl turned cold-hearted, don’t be a victim of circumstance!
Yesterday I was watching an episode of The Flash, and the young lady wanted revenge for her parents murder. Not only did she want the woman who murdered her parents ( who did so by accident, her powers sparked an explosion she couldn’t control, she had no intent to hurt anyone) but she wants everyone with powers dead. Now she lives on the extreme side of “justice” and she is becoming the very thing she hates.
When people lean towards extremes their cause is usually destroyed because it leaves no room for redress. The person takes an all or nothing approach that only takes away all their common sense and nothing gets solved.
Its like a personal dispute in my family. One person felt like another member came and disrespected their home. The disrespect wasn’t that extreme it was someone interfering w/ domestic disputes (stay out of couple arguments unless you really have to step in to discourage violence). But the one person went to the other member house and took things a whole different level. Now he’s on a crusade to disrespect her every waking moment he get until she apologizes for her disrespect.
His crusade is now a lost cause because the extremes he acted on. Talking it out, allowing room for redress, would’ve allowed reasonable minds to differ and discuss. Now its foolish pride and a lost cause with severed relationships that may never be mended.
When dealing with a wrongdoing the best course of action is a sensible approach. Talking it out, getting behind the reason for the wrong doing and other reasonable things. Veering into the deep extremes will only lead to more hurt and guaranteed the person you’ll end up hurting the most . . . is yourself.
HOW THE BAD THINGS IN LIFE CAN MAKE FOR A GOOD STORY
Vito Corleone's death scene in The Godfather
Barry gets dismantled in his first encounter with Zoom
Today on my morning commute, I was thinking about a great win we took last night and all the hardships we had to overcome in the past several years. I thought to myself "man if somebody was watching this on tv they would be going crazy after seeing all these rollercoaster rides" and that's when it hit me, as cliche as it sounds it really is about a journey. Think about how uninteresting it would be if The Flash beat every major villain in a single episode or The Godfather just showed Marlon Brando reigning supreme all day. No story is complete without drama. Even though, people strive to live without petty drama it is the dilemmas/problems that give our life story depth.
Michael Jordan didn't come out the gate being the greatest basketball player of all time, he didn't even make varsity squad in high school on his first attempt. Van Gogh only sold one painting in his lifetime...ONE! A major lesson I've learned is not to be outcome dependent, meaning being hyper focused on the results of an outcome instead of just taking it as it comes. That's equivalent to rushing ahead to the season finale without watching any of the core episodes.
The Red Vineyard was the only painting Van Gogh sold in his lifetime
If you are wanting to rush to the "good parts" of life chances are you're already in it, enjoy the show baby you're going to be here for a while!
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If you haven’t seen an episode of ARROW on the CW I recommend that you check it out immediately. It’s a television adaptation of DC COMICS “GREEN ARROW”, which follows the story of a man who becomes a vigilante after surviving a shipwreck. The main character Oliver Queen aka The Green Arrow is known for a somewhat fatal character flaw, he blames himself for EVERYTHING(literally everything). From his view there’s nothing wrong with that because he considers himself a hero and holds himself accountable. Many of us suffer from the same thing in real life.
As a person who only goal is to succeed one of the things I must have is self control, the keyword there is SELF. Too many times I may try to control things that aren’t in my control and when it doesn’t goes my way I blame myself for not doing something or doing something that I should or should not have done.
Oliver has seen many tragedies during the course of the series; witnessed his mother killed by a villain, seen his father commit suicide to ensure his survival, and even just recently accidentally murdered his ex girlfriend’s current boyfriend (you’ll have to watch the show to get all that). However the common thread there is all those things were out of his control even though he felt like his actions beget those consequences.
We may consider ourselves the heroes of our families but we can’t save everything and everyone, we can only try our best and not beat ourselves up about it. Remember a true hero knows how to save him/herself from him/herself.
